Right to be happy when "out of       love"

Sometimes couples are not compatible, they do not get along and contrary to the goal of marriage of being together for companionship and happiness, they are miserable in each other's company, it is time to think of an alternative; the alternative to live happily separately!

Couples do not always realize this fact in the early years of marriage. Mainly because they are too caught up trying to make things work and hoping things will become better or because they are too afraid of breaking social norms. But in this day and age, everyone has the right to be happy and live their lives the way they want to. And it is never too late to realize this and change for the better. Before being labeled a man or a woman we are all human beings and it is our basic human need and right to be able to live our lives with dignity.

If you feel you are “out of love” and no longer want to live together with your partner regardless of the number of years you have spent together, it is completely OK to feel or think that way. You just need to have a plan in mind as to what you want to do next. The road leading out should lead you to a better situation.  I suggest you consult a good lawyer who shall advice you and update you with the legal provisions of the country.  The best situation would be if both partners decide to separate mutually and behave rationally and chalk out a plan to live separately yet cordially especially where children are involved.

You have the right to be happy and no one has the right to prevent it. If your marriage is not working it is better for you to separate from your spouse and be at peace with yourself than to keep up a façade and be miserable. Do not be afraid of what society has to say to this. You have to stop living for the wrong reasons dictated by others and start living for yourself for the right reasons.  There is more strength in a single truth than a thousand lies put together. So the choice is yours as to what kind of life you want to lead. You have the power to change your life.

Be Happy!

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